Roberto da Silva Rocha, university professor and political scientist
The danger of monogamous relationship
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About 73% of homicide crimes are committed by one partner against the other partner in a romantic relationship or a marital situation in the USA; in Brazil, relationships between couples are responsible, in statistics, for about 85% of homicide crimes.
Finding the way out of the biggest trap of this human tragedy - which is based on love and affection that leads to the occupation of more than three out of four homicides - this deserves reflection and explanation.
Why the couples that start with gifts, promises, a lot of affection and almost always end in aggression and death?
Can we decrease these mortality and lethality statistics among couples?
Feeling is superimposed on the material side, and, in a way, against the so-called rational side; in fact, only higher animals have this ability to develop affection between their fellows of the same species, and at a certain age stage, and some develop eternal affective bonds, which end only with the death of their life partner, as in the cases of the animals. pairs: of schisms, in penguin pairs, in orca pairs, in lion pairs, Tigers, Bears, Monkeys that live with their partners until death or with their harem until they are killed or expelled by other dominant alpha males.
The last step that equates intelligence between humans and animals is the ability to develop a feeling of affection that species, in general, cannot develop to protect their unborn children, or to stay together after courting and marrying, is almost humans in the sophistication aspect of developing a higher brain intelligence cognitive complex.
However, the highest degree of complex intelligence was only conquered by humanity in the probable last 6000 years when humans invented religion and then created Philosophy, from these two evolutionary steps we became civilized, no species reached these two levels of certifications of a mental sophistication capable of abstracting from what they can see, hear, feel in order to create something that exists outside their own sensory body and that cannot be seen, and that serves as a substrate in the context of discovery, the context of explanation and the context of justification called religion, then, within the cognitive space of religion, God and the Gods fit, which is the alter ego of the human being himself above the human being created by him who created everything from nothing.
From a religious doctrine determined in an erratic stage of humanity, polygamy or plural marriage or unions were abolished and since then conjugal violence has acquired a dimension of calamity in parental relationships.
A single pair of shoes is of crucial importance for anyone who only owns one pair of shoes, that ends up being their only option and the only alternative to protect their feet, so the necessary things always come in double, when possible, so it doesn't become a single, critical alternative; who has many children, instead of the only child, distributes the tension of family life among the various children thus cared for and does not overload their feelings and expectations in the only object of care dedicated to the only child, people usually have more than one child, to reduce anxiety and expectations about their children's future; so, in the same way, when adopting monogamy, attention and expectations of success, as a couple, are blocked and one moves forward against all expectations of success and with all the anxieties inherent in the only possible path, overloading the partner with unique assignments that he has to take care of, which leads to the couple's breakdown in a short time.